Over time, ideas and opinions of sex have changed. People have increased acceptance of premarital sex, having multiple sexual partners, engaging in casual sex, and sex among individuals who identify as gays and lesbians.
Increased exposure to sexual media may contribute to increased interest in different ways to have sex. Having a threesome, for example, is a popular sex fantasy. Recent research findings suggest that young adults have a greater interest in threesomes compared to previous decades. A study surveying 200-plus adults aged 18 to 24, investigated participants’ opinions on and experiences in mixed-gender threesomes (MGTs). MGTs are a form of multi-partner sex consisting of at least one member of each gender. Sixty-four percent of respondents expressed an interest in having a mixed-gender threesome. Thirteen percent, however, had threesome experiences. The overall level of interest in threesomes was low, depending on contextual factors. Researchers suggest that while young people are accepting of MGTs, they may lack the motivation to participate in them.
If a couple has an interest in three-way sex, both partners should communicate this desire to each other and begin the search for a third partner. Couples can find the third participant for a ménage à trois in-person at a variety of public places: at bars, restaurants, clubs, or parties. Finding a third partner online via Tinder, Reddit, or applications designed for facilitating threesomes is a good idea. One such app, Feeld, formerly known as 3nder, makes it easier for people interested in group sex, polyamory, and kinky sexual acts to communicate. People should be cautious when engaging in threesomes. Suspicious partners can use an online resource database, like golookup, to do a background check and find public records on the invited partner.
An essential tip for couples seeking a third partner is to communicate as much as possible. Both partners should understand what each other wants from having threesome sex. The third person chosen for threesomes should have qualities that appeal to both partners, as both partners should feel comfortable with their choice.
Additionally, couples should know what might be off-limits during threesomes. Kissing, for example, is something that couples should discuss. One partner may be comfortable kissing the third participant and watching their partner kiss that person, while the other partner may be uncomfortable with that. Couples engaging in their first threesome should agree and set ground rules for acceptable and unacceptable acts during threesome sex.
The comfort and excitement of everyone involved in threesome sex should be a priority. While spontaneous threesomes can be successful, couples can benefit from spending time with their third partner. When inviting a third person to have sex, couples should communicate with that person and make sure they are comfortable. Creating a safe word allows all three people to stop engaging in sexual acts they are uncomfortable with or end the threesome.
Couples should treat the third person with respect and avoid making them feel like a sex object. Additionally, partners in a relationship should make sure no one feels like a forgotten third wheel, and that all three participants have fun and receive attention and pleasure.
All three participants must have guilt-free, consensual, safe sex. There should be plenty of condoms on hand for three-way sex. Condoms should be a priority in sex that includes penetration of multiple partners. A great way to ensure everyone has a good time is to cater to everyone’s sexual preferences comfortably. Foreplay and oral sex can be fun to start with and increase everyone’s comfort levels. Sex toys, dirty talk, and sexy lingerie can spice up the whole experience. Establishing rules and boundaries, finding an ideal third person, and making sure everyone has a pleasurable time are ingredients for successful threesomes. Mind-blowing first-time threesomes will have couples anticipating the next time.
